Wife just told me doesn't want to be married

[Autumn Leaves]

I know how hard this is on you, on all of us. But if you can still picture yourself in counseling with your W and have hope for a new M for both of you then maybe it is too soon for Match.com or that type of thing. It will only confuse you more, and ultimately won't help your sitch.

You said "Maybe her finding out I was out with someone else might make her think.".... I don't know about this, doesn't feel like DB

Hang in there witz, each day brings a new chance and you never know what tomorrow will bring. Just don't look too far down the road, it is too overwhelming

[MrBond]

There is no clear cut answer to this.

You will know when you want to go out with other people.

I will say that it does help to go out with people of the opposite sex. Going out reminds you of how to get your "swagger" back. Once you do, you can try applying that stuff in your interactions with your W.

The thing is that you do this for yourself. NOT because you want your W to rethink things.

[CO1978]

Only you know when the time is right and IF you want to date someone. Dating someone doesn't necessarily mean becoming intimate with them. If you do use match.com, make sure you don't lead anyone on in your profile, maybe say "looking for a friend first and then we can see what happens." Be honest and upfront.