Asking for Help / Advice Please

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Edgar, sorry to hear about the rough goings. The FB stuff I know would crush me. I can't give too much advice about how to combat R with OM. I know in my sitch I was a dummy and invited her to functions that involved our S, only for her to shoot them down before they even totally came out of my mouth, and probably set me back because of my pursuit. I think in my sitch it was way too soon for me to be inviting her. I wouldn't go totally dark though if I were you. I'd continue with the TM, but let her initiate most of the TM and don't always reply right away. I think you said you've been doing this, and if you were continue. Before you can start doing things together, we need to become friends, and build from there. A few good conversations I don't think cut it. I don't think I will try to invite my W to anything until January (if even then). Although I don't have an OM to worry about (at least not yet), and our S keeps W and I in contact a lot more than you get, that is just my plan for my sitch. You can say you are planning to do stuff yourself (like the hiking) and let her invite herself. I know it is so hard not to over analyze everything, I do the same.