Uh, I'm the parent that left! I stayed for five horrible years trying to save the marriage. When the situation became unbearable for everyone involved, kids included, I pulled the plug. I told her to either dump the OP and work on our M or we're done, she said "we're done" My kids are incredibly happy and well adjusted but that's because Voldy and myself put our crap aside and focused on helping our kids through it. It's not what I wanted but it is what happened.
