I work with mostly men and It would be very very difficult for me to have ZERO contact with someone I'd already worked with on a research project.
It would look very weird for me to ask for an intermidiary AND besides, OW never reciprocated his feelings so he'd look extra stalker-ish.
He opened up to YOU about what was having to happen with her at work and how limited it would be. He hid nothing.
You over reacted big time and then, thank God, you let the divine in.
Keep that up.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016