AC, It's okay to repeat yourself. You've been with your wife a long time and to go from 20 yrs of contact to moving away.. well it's brutal.
I think you need to stop with the packages and notes. Your wife is trying to build a new life... and as much as it sukks... you need to let her go.
AC - listen to me when I say this.... IT IS THE LOVING THING TO DO.
It's gonna go against everything you want, it's going to go against everything you believe in...
.... but it's out of your hands now so Let Go and Let God.
It does NOT mean that you have stopped caring about her or that you AREN'T there for her.
It means that you cannot control her or her choices.
It means that you are upholding your vows to love her for better or for worse. To love her enough to say good-bye, and to give her what she wants... EVEN if you DON'T WANT IT or AGREE with it.
IF you can learn to have that perspective.. you will find yourself slowly crawling out of the hole you are in.
I have two suggestions for helping you gain the positive momentum.
1) At the end of every night... write what you are thankful for. It doesn't have to be huge.. although you can have big items.. but there were times when I wrote "Thank you for the dude that left me in on the highway in rush hour traffic this morning". Do it daily - he!! post it here - watch your perspective change.
2) Create a bucket list of things you always wanted to do - same concept. Small to big. Make sure you have items on there that you can achieve easily as well as ones you have to work on.
You can do this AC!
((( )))
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
