Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

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Agree completely. That's why I know I can't go on for long...too much will be lost and I also believe H needs to see the consequences of his actions. I am glad I've been (somewhat) patient until now...because I think H has seen some changes in me and I believe he's having more conflicting thoughts.

I know that for me, the kids are a big part of it. I ideally want them to grow up in a home where their parents are happily married and they can see an example of how marriage should work. I also don't want to give up too quickly and lose out on a portion of their childhood. I also don't think either me or H can imagine us not being a family. H still invites me to do everything he does with the girls. I can also see the struggles of finding someone new when there are kids involved.

On the other hand, I also want to raise strong daughters and I don't want them to sense I am being a doormat. I think if H could look at himself...he'd see he's not acting how he would want their future husbands to act towards them.

So complicated, and I think you can only take things day by day.

I do really appreciate the diverse perspectives on this board though, and I want people to push me and test my thinking. I know I'm stronger and more able to think differently because of all of you!