Thanks CO1978 for the words of encouragement. Our situations have a good many similarities, even down to the fact that you and I are the same age, and our wives are the same age lol.
Had a bit of a strange thing happen this morning and wanted to run it by you guys. I guess I realize I'm still probably trying to over-analyze everything, but here goes...
Today, I received a call from the vet saying that my dog's tumor that was removed was benign. Taht was fantastic news and I've been really worried about it. Anyway, I TM the EW to let her know the good news. We had a really nice conversation and we were joking around and flirting just a bit. I asked her if she had ever been hiking to a particular canyon in a wilderness area around here. She said yes, and she'd really like to go again but she can't remember how to get there. I said that I think I had found some directions and that I was planning on going this weekend. If she'd like to go she was welcome but I understood if she couldn't or didn't want to. I hope that wasn't pressuring her? She just responded that if my directions turned out to be good ones to please email them to her. I just went on with our conversation like nothing had happened or that it was no big deal to me whether she went or not. I didn't really expect her to go I guess and that probably makes it wrong of me to even ask her. It was just kind of one of those spur of the moment things and she was saying she'd love to go again so I didn't think that asking her would push her farther away so I went for it. She didn't seem upset or anythign that I asked, but it was a little bit upsetting that she put me off so coldly. I didn't let it ruin the remainder of what was a positive TM exchange though, and I haven't let it get me down. Do you guys have any thoughts or comments on it?
On another note, I know this is a super slow process and I still have 4 sessions with my DB coach, but it just doesn't seem like I'm making any progress at all. She's still with OM and proclaims love for him on FB at every opportunity. Well, not every opportunity, but still lol. One of my longer term goals was to share a preplanned activity with her, such as the hiking. I'm thinking of revising that goal to just spending some time with her, even if it's only like 10-15 minutes.
The times we've seen each other, I get the feeling from her that she's glad to see me, and each time we TM we have pleasant conversation. I think that I initiate too much of it though. My DB coach didn't seem to have much of a problem with me initiating so long as I was getting positive responses. I'm wondering now though if I should not go a little more "dark" since we've been talking a pretty good bit over TM and I'm not making a whole lot of progress. I always get positive reaction from her and from time to time we joke around a bit, but it's not getting better in the form of more initiation of contact from her. I will talk to my IC about it and also to my DB coach but I'd love to hear what you guys think as well. Go dark again? When I did the first time I went almost a month without talking to her. She was very happy to see me once we finally did again.
