It just seems that when she comes to me about anything right now it custody related in some regard and that is for sure in search of a solution. Sure, I can listen and empathize - but at the end, she wants some sort of plan.
Maybe you can let her suggest the plan and you can react to it versus driving the planning. If it's leading to argument, you could suggest you take it to e-mail where you can't interrupt each other and you can make sure each position is expressed fully.
You pointed out that her custody criteria are impossible to satisfy, have you told her what your custody criteria are? Tell her what YOU want and ask her to propose a plan that meets your needs.
Maybe putting that on her versus always doing the planning would be a 180?
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
