Doing the "Friends" Route Pt 2...

[Abbey]

@ Starsky. I'm not posting about the "stuff" I'm doing day to day because some of it is rather lack luster in print.

Come January I'll be so damn busy that I won't know if I'm coming or going. (Lull before the business storm).

Business in December is downtime for me, because it's not retail.

You asked in another thread, why make someone a priority who is making us their second choice. By definition, your question implies that we shouldn't DB at all, we should just shut them out completely. You're assuming to read what's in our H's minds. (something else you commented on and said we shouldn't do.) But I do think you're attempting to read mine. So I'm confused.

FWIW, People have intuition, people DO know their partners, people DO get a grasp on what's going on with their partners. I DO know what's in my H's mind, because I'm seeing it first hand, he's verbalizing it first hand. I'm watching a toxic relationship where they fight, then cling, fight then abuse each other verbally, then cling, go passive aggressive, then cling, then push away, then argue. Try to one up, one turns their back to withhold clinging, then fight, then cling. Round and round and round.

Me, I'm not clinging. Actually watching this has made me disgusted and my view of my H in a word most times would be one word: Pathetic. He still goes running back, just like a stupid puppy. He's clueless, hurtful, and the only priority I am committed to, is my own self survival.

My comments here are just what they are, comments, rants, raves, progresses, and backslides.

Cheers
Abbey