So maybe I will make 2 lists, that is not a bad idea. I am not as much focused on what he thinks of me, but rather trying to own my part of it and make the necessary changes that are for me and my future R whether with him or not. If I have struggled with codependency that can come across as controlling. I don't want to be that person and know it is truly an area I need to work on. There are also qualities that I have seen in myself that he has not mentioned, but I know that I need to change (for me) and it all boils down to having more self respect.
My other list can be things that I enjoy, make me happy, bucket list of sorts. I know for sure that I will be taking up photography this year. I have always wanted to and this is my year!!
I saw on another post that 25 posted about a program that she did called Essential Experience. I just checked and there is one in my area beginning in January. I am going to look into it a little further but I think it could really be good for me to do this.
