Spoke over TM to the ex today for a bit. I initiated first to let her know about the dog and then we had no contact for a few hours. Then, she initiated a conversation with me asking how my sobriety had been going. I was proud to tell her that it was going well. She gave me a very enthusiastic TM back and I kind of played it cool and didn't get into a lot of emoticons, etc with her. Then, we kind of joked around a bit about a few things and I just stopped responding after a while when her last text was something like "i bet lol" or something like that. My DB coach says to initiate every now and then if I'm getting positive response. No relationship talk and no asking abotu where she's been or what she's doing. She hasn't asked me that stuff yet either, but that was the first time in about a month that she had asked about my sobriety so I thought that was a small step forward! At this point, I just try to pick out small positive things and be happy about them. Anytyhing is better than the weeks we spent without a word.
