So my first goal for myself is to create a list of the things that H has complained about in me, the things that I may or may not have contributed to the situation we are in now.
I will determine which I feel are true in order to begin working on them for me, in order to become a better person.
At the same time I will determine which are just blame and rewriting history, and will dismiss them
It may take some time, and I'm sure it won't be easy but it is a good starting point
Thankfully the boys have practice tonight so I should have the house to myself for a while tonight, perfect timing.
I plan to pour a glass of wine, sit by the fireplace and just get it all on paper (to be kept private obviously)
