Wife left

[CO1978]

Journaling: This morning the W came over for the usual change over. I don't want to read into anything but I thought there was some good that came out of our talk. I asked about her night at work as usual, she then started to complain about her Parents house. She is planning on moving into half a double that is next door to her parents (her parents own both sides). She complained how dirty and disgusting the one side is that she is trying to move into. There was trash bags filled with old food, dog fur shavings on the carpet, trash everywhere. She said her mom and sisters just throw trash bags of stuff in their daily even as was cleaning. She said their are rats living under the porch. I told her that the rats may be living inside that part of the house too with the food being around. Then she started to complain about her parents house, how the bathroom curtain had black mildew covering it, and how her mom leaves food out for 8 hours then puts it in the fridge. She said she is afraid to eat there. She also complained about some other stuff, I just acted shocked and tried to hide my smile. (Grass is not always greener). She said it would take a while for her to get that place cleaned. She then started talking about her sister and her sister's ex-husband how they were still battling over their divorce (I was thinking oh crap). She was saying how much her sister's XH was a jerk and couldn't believe someone could act like that. We had a pretty good conversation (she did not feel like her cold self), right up to me having to leave. I told her I had to go, SHE said "Have a nice day" (couldn't believe she said it first), I said thanks, enjoy your day off. I got home, she was still there. She said she didn't want to take S over to her parents house and she would not make him suffer because of her suffering (not sure of her exact wording on that). We talked a little more, she got a car loan and was happy to be able to trade her car in (get out of my loan). She said she would get her own insurance (off of my insurance) I offered her that if she couldn't get cheap insurance she could stay on mine, then she asked to borrow a few dollars for cigarettes. That was pretty much the day. I am glad she got her car loan, yes it means she is breaking out of dependence of me, but her confidence will go up as well.