Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

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Yes, I am guessing that my H and OW are in a "hot" affair...but not necessarily worried about the long-term right now or a big commitment. I have a feeling OW may just be having fun while she goes through her separation/divorce and my H is riding along. (Fits well with his feedback that she's really fun, energetic, etc) He maybe can't get into a huge relationship talk with her because it would be "dorky" at this point to talk about a big future. My H was so starved for love and attention when he met her...he'd have fallen head over heels.

Again, I'm also hoping the fact I discovered the A while it was only 4-5 weeks old is also a good thing. I would hope he may have kept things a little less serious with OW than he would have if it was secret. I do think he's conflicted.

I also don't think "my" OW is psycho at all. I have friends who have mutual facebook friends with her and I've met OW's dad through my job (CEO of a company I did work for as a consultant). I may have a huge problem that she won't put pressure on H or go psycho on him. My best bet may be that she gets tired of him flying home to his family and she meets someone else in her social circle.

Saying this out loud, I do need to keep showing H what he is missing. If I rock the boat in January and he moves out...maybe he realizes he's losing a lot over just some "fun"?

Of course, I am also hoping some of the intense endorphins start to die down a bit and maybe some reality seeps into their A too. At a minimum, I hope yesterday makes H feel some more guilt and like he's missing out on things at home. I just hope he has a few moments on his trip with her where he feels hollow...