Abbey, I think it is very positive your H is willing to talk to you about his issues with the OW. I don't hear anything from "the other bubble" and I think that's a huge issue in breaking through the fog.
Stay strong and GAL away...you are in a tough situation but I like your attitude!
M 44, H 46 D11, D9, D5 Married 12 years PA confirmed 9/2011 I filed 3/2012 H moved out 7/2012