DB'ing is soooo hard!

[workinghardguy]

Rick, I've found that GAL helps with this. For me some of this feeling was jealousy. Here I am at home, sad, depressed, and miserable and there she is partying like a rock star, having the time of her life.

Now I have my own fun times that don't involve her. And, at least for my w, much of her fun is alcohol induced and I know later she feels regret and worry over her need to have alcohol involved all the time.

Lastly I try to see things from her eyes. She is under incredible stress. Ys, self-induced, but that's not how she sees it, right? So I understand that she needs to go have fun and blow off steam and unwind. And since I'm a big source of her stress (again, according to her worldview) then doing things with me certainly won't undo the stress.