IB, I also wanted to erase all the pain. You have to change the way you look at it,( My IC's words )
You have to look at it as a SURVIVOR. You have to look at your kids as survivor as well. They are not victims of circonstances. They are thriving. They are handleing the situation with dignity, the best they can. The fact that they are feeling this pain now could be a blessing for their own children in the future because they would NOT hurt their kids the way their dad did to them. They are learning important lessons in life right now.
My dad was an alcholic. I see booze as destructive. Do you think that i turn to alcohol for a quick fix? NO WAY! Don't want to take that path and scr*w up my life and lives of others around me. No Thanks! My lesson was learn at a very young age. I always loved my dad but i hated his way of handleing life. I hated the fact that he didn't see the pain he caused us. He passed away in 1982 and i still love him. I ask him to guide me when things gets rough. He played a big part in my values witch are founded by things i lived. Stay strong and positive!!!
