We have choices, too.And sometimes I think that the MLCers don't realize that.
I think they know we do but choose not to care because it is more pain. To let all that reckoning come for their own choices and having to deal with the process of contrition...
Well I think it is for them voluntarily grabbing a can of gasoline and pouring over their already alight heads.
The weight of it is too much for them. Which is why we say here...
Pressure applied by the LBS just isn't healthy. For anyone. Boundaries yes. Pressure no.
They have to come through it by their own way (if they ever do).
At least that is what I believe with regards to my W.
The sad thing is that often they realize too late that the door was open for them to reach through and discover that love can help heal.
They define us, the relationship, and the capacity for love in their limited way of perceiving and understanding these things. on their own terms. Why would someone love me after this? I wouldn't love me after this?
Are they capable of growing beyond that?
I think everyone is.
Not while in crisis. The only thing in their world is how to make it stop.
So consideration for the consequences of their choices doesn't carry much weight in that moment.
For me I think if she does ever do that, I hope I can remember what I know from being here and listen with the compassion and understanding that I have today knowing that she is making it down the road to a better place for her.
Thank you all for your kind words and good wishes.
I will still be around.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
