YAAAAAYYYYY! Accuray, wow! I love that thinking. Good good good!

You have hit upon a great approach to my dilemma about people striving for excellence crushing those they want to help. Just BE for a while. Then check back in. I think it's the constantly being evaluated and falling short that is so draining.

You're right. My T has mentioned lots of times that what you think and feel NOW may be different later and same for your spouse. Focusing on the moment frees you from worrying about the future. Try to be completely happy for the moment with the good things you DO have.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.