but I see such growth too. I know, it cost you so much. But hey, if you pay the price at least enjoy the "product". You are a better woman than before.
You have NOT been at this long. This is a lot to process.
As for your heartbreaking commentary from d4, Let your h hear that comment too--NOT from you.
b/c Your d4 will say it to him, or words to that effect, sometime when she's with him one on one. IF he asks you about it, you admit she said it to you and that is WAS hard to hear, but that you reassured her of your love...and leave it at that.
Reassuring her is your goal. Letting him deal with his own stuff is HIS responsibility. Do NOT take on any of his stuff.
If he tries to make you responsible for the natural consequences of his choices, you need to say you already owned your part in this and that you are not going to get into his sandbox anymore.
He has HIS stuff to deal with and you have yours. IN fact your plate is damn full right now so, wish him well on his journey -sincerely--and continue on yours.
If you are half as calm and pleasant as you sound here, and you are looking good& being upbeat and attractive around him
then the only obstacle to his return, (that I can see) is his trusting the changes he sees.
That takes time.
Stay the course of GAL, 180s, preparing for the worst WHILE hoping for the best.
And being the great mom you are.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
