Thanks vc, but I must add that while I handled it well at the moment I'm far from the end still. If he was to follow through with his new love and I'd be happily single with a new life that would be great, but he isn't happy and from the looks of it pretty much expects me to go back to him.. So far I haven't and I told him (when he came by the other night) that no, he can't sleep over or as a matter of fact stay any longer, or call me 10 times a day and out of 10 calls ask at least 2-3 times if I want to get back together. Ow is still there but the love or magic of it is pretty much gone I think, she seems to be out a lot with friends and h said he had told her that he wants me back as I'm more important to him than her. Yet she is still there.. Two days ago (I think) when I told him to give me a break from he constant calls and everything as its not working, I'm not feeling more in love with him and it's not helping his situation. He said it was fine, he will not call me until Christmas so I can decide. I can't remember if it was the next day or the same day he texted me.. Then called yesterday so I asked if it was Christmas yet.. Long story short.. He is in touch constantly and I'm not sure if I should go no contact.. It would be hard this month, having the same friends we are invited to a few parties so going dark and seeing him at one of these wouldn't be the best but I try to avoid him if I can or today and yesterday I just told him I was busy and let him go.. I can't even test if I'd miss him because he calls all the time.. I guess it's somewhere a good sign but just too much at the moment.
Me: 28 H: 40 Together: 10yrs Married: 6 yrs OW, ILYBNIL: june15/ 2011 I moved out/ ow moved in: nov 2nd/2011 H and ow no longer live together: may 1/2012