We were playing with a girl on the block and she mentioned she was going to another kid's, kenny's, Bday party, my D3 had not been invited to the party. My D3 said "but I know Kenny too!" It made me so sad.
It was one of those instances where normally you might be a little bummed out but for me it kind of snowballed into super sad.
.... Maybe she didnt get invited cause I'm a bad mom, I'm not social enough. Clearly I'm a bad mom cause my H left me, but I must really be bad cause my kid isnt even going to this freaking party. What kind of mom has H that leaves them, I most really be awful...
I got over it (kind of) as did my D3 (she forgot). But I guess every little temper tantrum I think might be because my H is abandoning us.
Whoa.
Seriously whoa.
Please tell me that you see how crazy it is to let something like a lack of invite snowball like this???
Who's in charge in your head anyway?
YOU are. Or you should be. I know how easy it is to slip into "feel sorry for myself" mode. I get it. But that doesn't make it helpful or healthy.
Now tell me ... is that piece ridled with sarcasm or do we need to haul out the 2x4s and pick it apart?
Sweetie ... there wasn't anything to get over. It's a kids party ... and those parents have reasons for inviting whomever that have nothing to do wity you or your daughter. If she was upset (which by the way would be greatly influenced by your response to the situation) why not take it as an opportunity to teach her to live and let go? Shrug your shoulders and let it go like it's no big deal ... because it's no big deal.
Are you a bad mom? Are you social "enough"? What the heck is "social enough" anyway ... and who sets the standard?
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do you see where I'm going with this?
PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
