I'm glad to hear your son is doing much better. I know that's a relief and was unneeded stress during what is a difficult time for you.
One thing I would say is this, be very careful about reading anything your wife says or does. I, too, have a tendency to think of every positive interaction with my EW as meaning that we are on the road to getting back together. That, in and of itself can bee seen as pressure or pursuing. Really, she needs to think that you are in the process of moving on without her and that your life is one big happy day after another. WASs are in a very confused state of mind and that's why you can't believe anything they say and only half of what they do. It's almost like they have to feel that you have moved on (or are starting to) before they can realize they miss you. When you talk about the relationship and you ask too many questions, or express your true feelings, they have no reason to miss you. They need to miss you before they can come back. So, no matter how hard it is, and it will be VERY hard, you MUST not talk to her about the relationship unless she initiates it. Even if she initiates it, you have to read her body language and what she's saying and don't seem too excited about it. Stop admitting and apologizing for yoru faults. Be very very careful about getting back together too fast. That's what me and my EW did the first time she left and there were too many unresolved issues for us to make it more than about 6 months. Ease back into it with counseling and just spending quality time together.
