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[2thepoint]

Hey Gunny! I know this new milestone with your W has you feeling a little down. But, maybe it would help if you look at this from a different perspective. Your W has now found a job and so she she must be feeling much more confident than perhaps she has in the past. I think this may actually be a positive. She's now in a better frame of mind and may potentially be open to your 180's and other changes that help her to warm toward you.

You talk about this being another nail in the coffin. Maybe it is, or maybe it isn't. But why hand her the nail and the hammer and then pound it in for her? Let things play out in their own time.

I don't recall but would it ever be a possibility for you to move to where your W is currently living? Maybe, that is something worthy of consideration.

In my situation, my W comes form the east coast and I know that she would move back home in a heartbeat if the opportunity were to present itself. Now I really have no desire to move back east. In fact, I'd rather move to the west coast if given a choice. BUT, if my W said that we could R and if I truly believed that it would work, I'd move east for her. She sacrificed and moved for me on 3 different occasions, so if I told her I'd move for her, that would be HUGE in her mind!

Just something to think about, Gunny.

But, remember if you are serious about DB'ing, then don't help her move closer to the D and don't cement decisions in her mind.

Make sense?