Husband Left...Part 2

[workinghardguy]

????? Hopeful, I'm not sure anyone is going to be able to figure that out. Does he mean you broke him or that he is disconnected from you? But in either case, I would just see it as more of the same WAS script. It's words to prove how apart you are and make you understand he doesn't want a connection.

Does he mean it? Well, maybe in that moment he does. Maybe in his current state he does. But can it change? Sure.

And if the message is that your hurt him and broke him on the inside, well, he is just trying to get you to own his pain. Happiness is a choice we make... it's about choosing to react to life's events in a certain manner. If he is choosing to react in a way that causes him pain, then that is his choice.

And to be consistent... when we choose to react to our WAS's departures and behaviors in a way that causes us pain we also are making a choice. Most days, at least lately, I try to look at the day as a blessing and another great day. There are days where I choose to look at it as another day where bad stuff is happening, but that's a choice I make and then I need to realize that I have responsibility for how I feel.