yes, I find that only talking about S gets W and I to have more positive interactions. (when she's not constantly texting OW at the same time!) Focusing on the baby is most important anyway, and when you focus more on the little guy, it's less focus on W and also on R. I know for me, since the bomb, I've learned that my S4 is my number one priority --- and I make sure he stays in that position. I want all this mess to be as easy for him as possible, at least the part that's under my control.

Hang in there Crimson. Keep posting.

Put a signature on at the bottom when you can. It's so interesting and handy to briefly read up on everyone's specs!


Me (f): 45
W(f) 35
T: 13 y
C: S4 adopted at birth
6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up
8-28-11 OW confirmed