DBing against OW...?????

[imthemom]

I understand what your saying Mish..but how do I do that and "go dark"??? I have a hard time understanding this whole going dark thing...its no contact at all unless emer. about kids...but at what point to you stop?? just because he noticed Im not talking to him doesnt seem reason enough to stop...I would like to at least hear him aknowledge that fact that he made some terrible choices and continues to make them...and I dont see that happening. My point in going dark was to put an end to our relationship as it is now and hopefully build a new one...but I was thinking he needed to get over his anger toward me before that could ever happen. I agree that what the C touched on def has some meaning...i hadnt thought of it that way until she said it...and you could tell it had an impact, the room went silent after she said it. What IS he trying to accomplish by hurting me? and why does he care? he has stated several time that he is happier then hes ever been. so why bother trying to get a reaction out of me????? and how do you co parent with a person who doesn not have the same moral values as you do?? and who is basically a stranger to you now? Im struggling with that...he is lieing and sneaking around and im supose to parent with him????
so im leaning toward continueing what i am doing until there is a major break threw, what ever that is....
help...im really confused?????