Thanks Advina - great, thoughtful response. I appreciate it.
As for the imperfections - I wasn't assigning them to anyone per se, it was more about the imperfections of a situation. I.E. - car is dirty, house needs cleaned, kitchen is a mess, and so on. I need to work a lot harder at accepting those things. I wasn't referring to imperfections in my W. However, I did have almost the exact conversation with her that you posted above. Basically said "I think I have low grade ocd and me cleaning up things is calming for me, and by no means a judgement on you at all." She seemed to understand at the time, but it came u when she dropped the bomb - so maybe not.
Re: the bed. Yeah, I probably made a bad call there. I wasn't trying to be paternal but probably came off that way for sure. I didn't expect anything from her at all. I really went back and forth on whether or not to do it. Part of me wanted to let her stay on the floor - since moving out was her choice. Maybe I should have done that instead.
Re: what to tell her. I simply said that the baby and I had a busy weekend and he was the center of attention with everyone - I think that was vague enough. I did tell her about the hike - just in one sentence, though - no details.
I probably need help in inward introspection - I am very open to establishing what my faults were/have been in this break down - I just have a hard time pinning all of them down and finding ways to "fix" them.
