Definitely back off now. That wasn't a backslide, that was an avalanche to the past. A while back I believe Telemark said it best...you need to shut up lol.
Continue to DO YOU. Leave your wife alone. Let her do as she pleases. She's going to be subconsciously testing you without realizing it and you need to act as if none of this bothers you and its just about you and your kids. Be the best father you can be. End of story.
