DBing against OW...?????

[imthemom]

well day started off yesterday by getting a call from my lawyer that H called and requested to sit down with us and work all the details out...relief that he didnt get a lawyer and pure utter sadness that this is really going to happen...

then realize that I have Co Parenting session with H again..DREAD!!

it was interesting in that we actually discussed S14 for once. C asked what we wanted to work on and read a list of items H had come up with last week.. communiction with me, parenting S14 together, figure out what we could do about S14s grades etc...
H picked the grades (which has already been decided and being implicated but OK??) so we talked about what we (I) have been doing in regards to that...took about 15 min. then we sat there..C asked again what H would like to work on and then he sits there for a few min. and says "well W and I arent really speaking right now (what? he noticed ive gone dark??) and id like to work on communication with her"...C looks at me and i say nothing.
C asks me why we are not communicating and i say very calmly " i dont think there is a need for communication between us right now other then S14s information"...C asks me why i feel that way.
I say very calmly "it seems when we have communication that H feels the need to verbally attack me so ive made a choice not to put myself in that situation anymore" C asks H if he is aware he is doing that and he says yes...C says are you willing to work on that and change it? and H says yes..C has H look at me and say..."Im am willing to put an effort into not attacking you and blaming you for everything when we speak and not be so mean and hurtfull anymore"....C asks if he is aware of it why is he doing it and H says because i know it makes her feel bad. C says well I wonder what it is that your really trying to tell W? because that is something that adolesents do when there trying to get someones attention..say mean hurtfull things...so what is that about.? he doesnt have an answer and session is over..i get up and leave with out waiting for H like I usually do ......
so what do you think? it felt like a baby step...if nothing else he noticed right???
feed back PLEASE!!!!!