Yup. His betrayal(s) caused me to feel pain like none I have ever felt before. Really amazing that I am still at least somewhat sane.

I'm not sure if there is really any 'bad' behavior to unlearn moreso than H needing to take responsibility for his actions and become accountable for them. That as well as having real repercussions. He seems to have stopped hanging around with his 'loser' friends as much, which is also a good sign. In addition to apologizing again on Saturday night, he also thanked me for not leaving him. I must have had a big question mark on my face, because he then stated that he had been thinking a lot and begun to realize all of the chaos that his actions caused.

I'm paying attention to his actions more than his words, and so far so good. H recalled a conversation that he had with one of his more mature friends and said that he had completely ended things with ow#2. I have still not brought up the password thing, but I am hoping to delve into transparency at our next counseling session.

I think part of the reason that he is making such fast progress might have to do with the fact that I am becoming more attractive to other men. He playfully grabbed my phone earlier in the evening and said "Who are you texting?" That was really strange behavior for him, so maybe he's paranoid that I am taking his advice about 'seeking happiness.' He's never been possessive and we never kid around like that.

Overall, the weekend was good. Went out on Saturday night, although I wasn't able to make it to church on Sunday. Don't want to do that again, I really felt like I missed out.

Originally Posted By: verycrazy
I agree with you, whether it's one or more than one, it is so painful to have been betrayed by the one person you thought you could trust in the whole world. It made me feel I couldn't trust him to protect me even in a life or death situation.

I feel bad for any man who grows up with men without moral values to guide him. I think a lot of fathers are going to have a lot to answer for one day. I believe with a lot of therapy, a man can unlearn some of those bad behaviors. I like to think so, anyway.
vc