Assume you have a WAW. Read Michele's article on this site. That means, from HER perspective (and if you want to save your marriage, you need to work from HER perspective), she has tried, tried tried, and she has HAD IT. That doesn't mean it seems true from your perspective, and there are folks here who will give you different advice. It's important to start there, because it gives you better chances. It tells you to LISTEN to what she wants, and it doesn't seem that you have done that. What she REALLY wants.
What does your wife really want:
1) for her life (monetarily, emotionally, socially, family-wise)
2) for her spouse and children (see above parameters)
3) what were the things at the beginning of your relationship that made her happy
4) what are the things that are bothering her now?
Sometimes the BEST place to practice DBing is not in your romantic relationship, but with your kids, or parents, or friendships or job.
So--in finding a job:
What is working, what is NOT working?
You have sent a bunch of resumes out, is that working? Does your resume need to change, does your approach need to change? What else could you do?
