there was a typo or mistake in a sentence where I said YOU had nerve. I meant your son(s) had nerve telling you unsolicited advice AND OR not helping around the house more, AND OR complaining about their mom, if that's the case.
try to protect ALL parties by explaining to your sons that she had it ROUGH in childhood, things (they don't need to know exactly what) happened to her, over a long period of time. She has the "right" to be damaged.
She's not coming from a place of selfishness, imo. She's coming from a place of survival and self preservation. Something in her has gotten very bent over the years, and is possibly broken.
Do what you can to help her heal and let your sons see that she DOES LOVE THEM but she is deeply wounded now.
That helps them and her, and will demonstrate some loyalty on your end (an attractive admirable trait for your sons to see & emulate instead of anger, controlling comments, criticism or a "sad as humanly possible" expression)
b/c even if you are hurt, even if she files for divorce tomorrow, you know she's wounded and you know it's best for your son to feel loved by his mother.
PS--do you understand what I meant when I said you should not be walking around with the "sad as humanly possible" expression? You seemed angry at that comment.
It's NOT that I don't know why you are sad. Of course I do. It's what you are showing others, and your sons and wife.
Rather than going into detail about it here again, just let me know if you understand what I meant now. I didn't know if you addressed that.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
