Was an interesting weekend here, but for the most part I think it was ok. I'm working much harder on defining my boundaries and setting them where appropriate.
Friday night we had a basketball tournament for S15 which was good, took one of the kids friends with us. On the way home he asked if I minded stopping for a bite with the kids. While there he grabbed my hand and said "this is nice"
The next morning he pulled back again, I wasn't totally shocked this time thankfully. Not like in the beginning. Although its not as if it gets easy.
So Saturday I went about my day and he went about his, the kids were both working so it wasn't affecting them at all. By late afternoon, I got a text asking me where I was. I didn't respond right away and eventually just said "on my way home shortly".
Saturday night he asked if I would go with him to meet some friends briefly. I was under the assumption that the friends didn't know anything but if he had talked to them, I wouldn't be surprised.
The one friend, whom I have known for 20 years and H has known for 25 years came in and hugged me tight and said "you are so sweet" and then shoved H and said "you're an idiot". He repeated this a few times, to both of us. I heard H respond "we're doing better, let it go"
So needless to say that hurt a bit. It turns out that the friend had been drinking before he got there which is why he was so loose with his words.
Sunday morning H was thoughtful and in a pleasant mood but by afternoon he was moody and distant. We were working on finances and realizing just how tight things are right now, and thankfully we are under the same roof. It would be so much tougher if we weren't. I didn't say this out loud, I just thought it.
It is possible that we just spent too much time together this weekend, and I need to make sure he gets his space. I think it is better for both of us to have that balance. This week I have an event on Thursday and also on Friday with two separate groups of friends. All local and not expensive which would be a trigger.
Heading to S15's tournament again in a few minutes which should be fun. The kids seem like they are doing well right now, so thankfully we have been good at keeping them out of it. For that I am very thankful.
