I eventually learned to occasioanlly say no, the arrange things in life so that I can be the person I need to be and she needs me to be.
I used to do that too--dump too many of my worries and insecurities on my W, instead of managing them on my own. It sounds like you've changed your relationship with a difficult memory and have more insight into it, and am not taking her comments at face value.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
