How much time passed before things started to turn around?
There's no rule. If OM/OW is involved, everything is prolonged until that fizzles out. While it's going on, all you can do is tread water and not push WAS farther away.
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015