Wanted to get some opinions. My anniversay is coming up on the 14th of this months. My DB coach suggested that I sent the w a plain, nondescript card saying something like "Thinkin of you on this day" Nothing more. Our correspondance has been friendly, "almost warm" as my coach said. What do you all think? I am open to all thoughts/suggestions. Thanks all!
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
In my opinion, you are still married and I would send her a card. My H left me a month before our 3 wedding anniversary and I sent him a card. But he did not even recognize our anniversary. So don't expect anything in return, not even a thank you.
Was thinking same thing for Christmas gift. Was going to get her a card that pretty much said same thing. I say defiantly do it, but as hopeful says don't expect anything in return.
M 33 W 29 S 4 M 5 T 7 11/7/11 Separation, W moves in with parents 12/1/11 W: "IDLY, I'm not coming back, it's over" 1/7/12 D Bomb Dropped
Hi Gunny hope you are well. Agust 1st was ours and I bought her roses as the priest asked for me to do. She has Vase to put them in. She did. But things have gone downhill since than. Hang in there
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Hello all, If we are allowed to link to outside articles here is one worth reading www.Americanvalues.org/unhappymarriages.pdf Very interesting and sobering article on the aftermath of divorce. Let me know your thoughts, thanks all, oops, looks like this link is bad, try googling "does divorce make people happy on the Institute for American Values website. great paper talk to me all.
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
Hello All, Just got a call from my w. She was offered a job. She was very excited, and I told her I was very happy for her, that I knew it was important to her, and that it will take alot of pressure off her.
She did not say anything about health insurance benefits, but I'm sure she is going to be covered, and that I will be hearing from her soon about coming off my benefits. Then, there will be no reason for us to stay married, I guess the next step will be to file for D. This is all conjecture, but it probably will happen.
I tried real hard to sound upbeat and exited for her, think I did a pretty good job. But, it is just one more nail in the coffin of her never moving back to Jersey. She is becoming more and more comfortable back in her hometown.
Should I have said anything about benefits? We ended the convo on a very upbeat note. Any advice, comments? Thank you all, I am feeling a bit down.
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
(((((hugs))))) gunny..... remember, those things aren't always nails in the coffin. You never know...she certainly won't tell u when she's miserable. At least not now for sure.
By the way, my specialty is American 20th century history. I do undergrad survey classes mainly. I absolutely love the 1940's and 1950's, but I also have a strange attraction to the medieval period as well. I read a lot of Norman Cantor who writes on medieval history and I also read a ton about the two World Wars-- pretty much anything I can get my hands on and have time for.
Me (f): 45 W(f) 35 T: 13 y C: S4 adopted at birth 6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up 8-28-11 OW confirmed
