Upside Down

[workinghardguy]

Generally, I'd like to think this all makes her think twice about getting rid of me, but maybe not?

Sorry Wayne... a couple text messages and some chicken soup aren't going to cure this How would you treat a co-worker or a roommate? Follow that line of thinking. If my roommate was sick I might ask them once if they need me to get anything, but they're not in a coma... they can ask me to get stuff too, right? And if I'm making supper or something for myself or myself and the kids I may offer to heat up some soup. I'd offer because I'm not a heartless jerk.

I know it's hard... I'm in the same boat. The other day W and I were talking about what she would leave behind at the house. I told her to take the old TV (which isn't really that old, just heavy) and she said she wouldn't have anyone to carry it. Then she lamented who is going to help her move? She doesn't have a lot of friends... which is odd because she has TONS of friends, but she doesn't have tons of real friends who would come into a tough spot like helping you move out of your house and away from your H who loves you. I get that. And then she said "I'm assuming you're not going to help me move"... and for a split second I almost said I would help. Then caught myself. Said, "nope... I'm not getting in your way but you're crazy if you think I'm helping you move" and I walked away.

So it is so easy to fall into that trap. So easy to be the friend, the supporter... keep remembering that most of this is counter-intuitive. But that one small setback doesn't blow up the bridge either...