The holidays can be a tough time for us can't they? The important thing now is that you don't give up hope. Not sure how far you are in the books yet, but one thing DR (i think) says is "Believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see." It's important to remember that. I'm proud of you for putting the tree up. I know that was hard for you. I did the same thing yesterday and my situation was the same as yours...I did the heavy lifting and wife decorated. It's good for you to do it yourself though. It was hard for me as well, but I'm glad I did it.
Fantastic job on sobriety! That is truly something to be proud of. Stick with it. It is better for you and your son and it definitely isn't going to hurt your relationship with your wife. Keep up the good work! I'm very proud of you!
As for your wife going out to bars, etc., try not to worry about that too much. I catch myself worrying about who my EW is hanging out with and what kind of influence those people are having on her. Just like in your sitch, it seems like my EW hangs out with people who aren't really for marriage and they are definitely not going to be telling her to come back to me. There is nothing you can do about who she hangs out with though so you just kind of have to roll with it. Pretty soon, going out to bars gets old. Sure, at first it's nice to have the attention it may bring, but going out and drinking all the time is really a pretty boring activity. I'm also a recovering alcoholic and all I ever did was drink. It never brings any solutions but rather just makes things more cloudy. I know it must bother you for her to go out like that, but if you say anything at all about it to her then she will just do it more.
