DBing against OW...?????

[imthemom]

You were reading my mind MZ...Im going to speak to his brother S28 today and have him really try to step up for his brother...
we did speak (S14 and I) after we both calmed down and he apologized for being "so crappy". It turns out that the girl who says she is 25 is not and is a girl from his school, so that made me feel alot better...but still inappropriate conversation and we spoke about that. We got into how angry he was when he got home from Hs house. He says that he is angry that he is still being punished for grades and hes only angry at me because H has said "if mom wants to give you the game back its fine with me"....nice way to lay it all on me right???? so im the bad guy and IM the one doing the punishing...gawd! so spineless and pathetic...
I told him that it was my job as a mom to make sure he is doing well in school and stick to my decisions that I make as far as punishments for him...I know he is not use to this because i would usually cave in and Im not this time. but we would both come out better for it and I know he can get his grades up, and it wont be long till he gets his game back.
it ended pretty positively...i feel better about it but know to my core that at least for right now, i cannot count on H being any kind of support with S14. S14 has even notices as he said "if dad doesnt care that my grades are bad, why do you?"...I told him that I cannot control what H cares or does not care about but he needed to know that it was not ok to have those grades and its my job to help him figure it out...i loved him and expected more from him because I know he is capable of more ...

becoming easier and easier to detach from the selfish, cold hearted person H has become...seriousely, he is not exactly looking like a prize keeper right now...