Newbie: Is this MLC and how do I GAL?

[JustStunned]

SD, detachment is for you as much of what is practiced here is. It is not a tactic to make your H do anything. That said if you have detached, stopped pursuit, and developed a little mystery perhaps H is missing you a little. IMO it is too soon, but that is my sitch talking not yours.

What you do, detach, GAL, 180 must all be for you and very real. If they are just tactics or you are just going through the motions he’ll see that, and will likely put more in distance.

I am a believer in continuous improvement. That the path to real sustainable change is marked with small improvements, baby steps. If what you are seeing seems to be improvement, and I get that from your post then repeat what got you to this point. Read Sandi’s tag line.

Prepare for a pull back and a downhill plunge on the rollercoaster. I hope your preparations here are for naught. I suggest preparation as I and others have experienced this after a positive. Don’t permit it to rattle you. This is a marathon. We are here for the long haul.