Never thought I'd be here........

[2thepoint]

"Granted, I can look in the rearview mirror now and see some things that I could have done or done better - but I have a hard time seeing how those things could result in the end of a marriage."

Crimson - after reading some of your posts I see you are giving your W plenty of space and you seem to be doing a great job in the GAL category. But, I wonder based upon your comment above just how much introspection you have done to really get to the root of those things that have played a role in driving your W away.

Unless I missed it, I see some evidence of 180's but nothing that would suggest that you are focusing on those real important issues that have been problematic in your relationship. So you say that when you look in the rear view mirror there are some things you could have done better. What are they? Just as important, what things could you have done not better, but different? These are two separate things that both require deep, inward reflection on your part.

"I hope this time apart gives her time to reflect, time to think and time to just stop being angry and viewing me as the centerpiece of her unhappiness in life."

I'm sure your W is reflecting and so forth but if you hope to have her back in your life, you are going to have to do more than just give her space and GAL. She has to believe that coming home is going to be better than where she is and more importantly, better than it was before she left. So what are YOU doing to make that a reality?

"...I am fighting every natural urge to reach out to her in the name of LRT. I can only hope that it is effective on some level."

Keep fighting that urge. It is an important component of DB'ing. When you start doing those MEANINGFUL 180's combined with your GAL and the space you are giving her, then you may begin to see signs of her heart softening a bit.

But, beware! If/when you start to see signs, you need to keep doing what you are doing. Don't fall into the trap that so many others on this board do when they sense a glimmer of hope and then snuff it out with a backslide. Just keep doing and keep going and maybe, just maybe, things will turn in your direction.