Val: I realized that I shouldn't have even acknowledged her texts, but I figured that since I set up a get-together with her family, she at least had a right to know why I was doing it. And no, she doesn't have a right to speak to me that way, I agree. I am indeed preparing for battle -- an L is definitely in my near future. I need to know all I can for what I might be in for.
kml: I know, what are the odds, right? I realize that I am very, very fortunate that my in-laws are being so kind to me. I've read several other sitches where the in-laws can be downright cold or rude, which is terrible to hear. MY IL's warm reactions do make me feel a lot better about myself when my W says so many nasty things to me. She's the ONLY person in my life who treats me that way...
I figured I should keep my updates frequent to keep them from getting too long. I just went over to my IL's house (only three minutes away from my apartment) and dropped off their wine. As I expected, they too were very kind and receptive. We sat down and talked for about ten minutes about what's been going on in our lives (except for, of course, the obvious, which I was glad we didn't talk about). They seemed very interested in how things were going for me and very happy that I was visibly doing really well. They were nice and said things like, "Stop by anytime! And we'll rabbit-sit any time that you want! Give us a call if you need anything!"
So sad that I may not be able to be close to all these wonderful people in the same way that I was, but I will always consider them family.
Annnnnd for one more update: I talked to my little S today, and she said that a friend of a friend lives kind-of in my area and is also going through a bad break-up. Apparently, this person has no friends and nothing to do on the weekends -- a sitch that I'm all too familiar with. So it sounds like I may hear from this person pretty soon. It sounds like she's four years older than I am, but I checked out her FB and we seem pretty similar -- college-educated, low-key, love to read, etc. My social calendar is exploding!
I realize that I am very, very fortunate that my in-laws are being so kind to me. I've read several other sitches where the in-laws can be downright cold or rude, which is terrible to hear. MY IL's warm reactions do make me feel a lot better about myself when my W says so many nasty things to me. She's the ONLY person in my life who treats me that way...