Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

[Abbey]

Where I'm going with it MZ, is that if a spouse feels sex starved, ignoring them, isn't necessarily the best course of action. Being interested, IS a 180, imo. So... as I've mentioned in a couple of threads, including my own, I see nothing wrong with tossing sex in the mix, IF, you can handle it.

If you can't... then touch is a pretty decent paving stone, I think. People who respond to touch, seem to be the same people who need the physicality of sex more than the average bear. Thus... I think that one seems to connect to the brain/heart/head the same way as sex would. Eg: modem to the brain.

I'm using back rubs because I KNOW that H could have that done to him for hours. Me, it's brushing my hair. I love it. I could sit and have someone play with my hair for hours. Guess what he's been doing in response to my back rubs.

My T is interested in the fact that we're in this place, but we still both seek out the touch connection. It's a bond technique that they suggest to parents and infants... including step parents. Simple touch can be very powerful.

I go so far as to touch my H's shoulder when we're looking over business contracts etc. If they quote - unquote "let" you touch them. Use it, I say.

Abbey