Next time, end that conversation sooner. Yes, your wife can have doubts about your changes... But good lord..
She doesn't have the right to speak to you that way. You set a boundary before... Stick to it!!!!
Also.. There is no way mediation is going to be possible as long as she is that angry. Not only will she feel entitled, she will do things out of spite.
I hate to say it... But you may need to bunker down for battle. Legal protection is going to be important.
So sorry west!
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.