PA - Confirmed - Blinkers are off.

[2thepoint]

OK Peter, I've just got to say this, so please bear with me...

2 days ago there was evidence that your detaching was begining to bear fruit. Your W drew closer to you in bed and slept close to you the entire night, then you had sex or something the next morning.

Then she realizes what happened and she pulls away, which we all know is normal in these situations. So she gets snippy because she is frightened and confused. And you get frightened because you feel her pulling away again.

So what do you do? You push her further away by engaging her in a confrontation that doesn't end well and solidifies in her mind that the D is the right course of action for her at this time.

Remember I wrote this to you the other day: "Think of it like trying to start a small fire with a single match. You got it to light and you know it needs oxygen to burn. But if you blow on it too hard, you will extinguise the flame. Stop blowing so hard!"

I know you know this but what you did was douse the flame with a bucket of water. Now what has to happen is the wood needs to dry out and you need to find another match (GAL). That is going to take awhile. So realize this, go dim, GAL and keep looking for those signals.

When they come, just make a mental note of them but do nothing different. If/when your W is ready to come around, she will tell you. I really don't tink you will be able to goose this along. She has to come in her own time and in her own way.

Hang in there, Peter. I'm rooting for you! Really!