too much time and distance

[any chance?]

Thanks, Gunny.
I have all our financial separations worked out, but I have not sent her the details yet, but she knows the main points. Have a scheduling hearing with the courts on Friday. Her L has supposed to have sent forms for me to fill out, but I have seen nothing yet.

As I mentioned a couple of posts back, she seems to be slipping back into depression (although she never left it). She is very alone, and feeling it. She misses her friends, needs someone to confide in. This puts her in a bad position, as she may gravitate to anyone who pays attention to her, which is a potentially bad situation. I am really struggling with how to deal with this. I have been contacting her bit by bit - care packages, occasional card and text, but I am not sure how she is taking these contacts. I am stuck, as I don't know if helping her move forward with the D will help or hurt her. I know she wants to check the box that says she did what she said she would do and divorced me, but I am not sure she can handle to slap of reality that financial separation will bring. She is not motivated to look for a job, and seems to be wallowing in her situation.

I am stuck and confused. Everyone tells me to move on and forget about her...she made her decision. But I cannot get over the feeling of abandoning her.