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L2L:
Sometimes I think you need to do what feels right. Yes, we need to GAL and focus on improving ourselves and moving forward. As my W moved to another state to 'heal' and is in the process of giving up everything she ever had, it is clear that depression is still in control. I send her the occasional care package, card, or text message....not to pursue..just to let her know that someone out there cares about her. Let her know she is not alone.

Does that violate DB rules? Probably. Does she like these occastional contacts? Not sure, but I think so. Does it feel right? Definately. When I look bad on this mess many years from now, I will be able to say that I did the right thing by standing by her through h*ll and back. Because it feels right.