PA - Confirmed - Blinkers are off.

[Abbey]

Now might be a good time to go "dim" for a bit. You've had the argument, she'll be all crappy for a few days. Just back off. Speak when spoken to. Smile til it kills you. And let her come to you.

Yes... It's a tightrope walk... and living together during this kind of thing IS worse than living apart. Nobody can give you a definitive rule book on what to do on any given sitch. Sometimes you have to weave and bob.

Try to reward good behavior with positive gentle reinforcement. And as hard as it is... IGNORE the bad stuff for now.