FWIW... the cougar comment comes from me losing in excess of 90 pounds and his comments about my appearance (I have new hair color, completely different cut from anything I've ever worn before, wear different style clothes, etc etc etc.) He's tested the waters about me being hit on by other men and other like minded comments about seeing if I'd go that route. I stay coy. Don't always say where I'm going, leaving some mystery etc. (All DB stuff.)
Cat references are also a big in this house because of some of the critters we own.
Walking, your post annoys me. It seems you're quite willing to judge how I'm handling this, without fully understanding my sitch, or the past history, or my own indecision about this. I don't know if I'll ever want this man back after this latest mess. If leaving the door opened an inch and having topical conversations about the future (after he's initiated them) is manipulative,... well then I don't know what to say.
As for winning or losing. Seriously... I WANT H to go full bore into this relationship with the OW. She's a narcissistic wacko. It's only when he has to deal with her FULL ON, and with me OUT of the picture, will the true picture of the mess he's made come into focus. Manipulative? I don't think so. He needs a big dose of reality, (like last time)... but this time, I won't be so interested in just jumping back in with both feet. More DB. So... what's the problem?
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
